The Sacred Exhaustion of Going All In.

Because not all tired is created equal.

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The VIBE:

I feel like I'm turning a big corner. I've been working my ass off to get around this one. It's exciting. It's inspiring. It's motivating, and I'm tired.

I've been thinking a lot about "being tired."

The tired, I feel, is healthy. It’s spiritual. It’s NOT the path to burnout tired. It’s the path of actualization, mastery, and MAGIC I’m pursuing.

Let me explain.

Not all tired is created equal. The source matters. The meaning matters.

I should be tired. Every single day, I wake up throwing my entire self at my life, from mind, heart, body, and spirit.

This tired comes from a place of power, not depletion. This is what happens when you truly go ALL IN on yourSelf. When you put all that you are into everything that you do.

This is a sacred kind of tired—the kind that comes over you when you're playing to win in life.

Playing to win versus not to lose are two very different approaches to life.

WHEN YOU PLAY TO WIN:

You live from your authentic Self

You bet on yourself

You trust your heart to lead your way

You live with an abundance-based mentality

You are an independent thinker unafraid of going against the crowd

Love is the primary source of your decision-making

You're not afraid to fail. You understand it's how you learn, get smarter + eventually win

You TRUST yourself + continue to build off it

You validate yourself

You are intrinsically motivated

You operate with an internal locus of control and agency

You value your health/vitality. You know your vitality affects how you show up in your life

You are highly Self-accountable. Your word is GOLD. You back your shit up

Your standards and values shape your goals, behaviors, and habits

You live with more depth, intention, passion, + purpose— you live ON purpose

You don't quit when it gets hard; you rest, recover, and get back in the game focused on winning

WHEN YOU PLAY NOT TO LOSE:

You play to others' opinions over the one you have of yourself

You play small + are constrained by limiting beliefs

You hesitate to take action

You don't take risks; you try to play it "safe"

Fear is the primary source of your decision-making

You live with a lack-based mentality

You're afraid to fail + avoid any possibility of it

You operate with an external locus of control and lack agency

You're not clear on your values

You lack independent thinking and go with the crowd

You trade your self-respect to make others feel comfortable

You settle over what you really want to experience

You give up before you even start

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Before you think I'm advocating for running yourself into the ground, let me be clear about something: This isn't about grinding yourself into dust or wearing burnout like a badge of honor. That's not playing to win—that's playing to prove, and there's a massive difference.

This is far from a "sleep when you're dead" message—hell no— I advocate for a delicious, Feminine, energetic life that nourishes you, not depletes you.

This is about loving yourself so much that you show up to your life with all your vitality and use that energy to create a life that inspires you. That means you know how to honor your tired and create rituals to recover strong.

Playing to win means treating yourself like a world-class athlete— you don't just train hard—you rest hard.

Royce Gracie’s quote, "Resting is training." impacted how I viewed resting in such a critical way.

When you truly play to win, your vitality becomes a non-negotiable priority.

You understand that your energy, nervous system + whole being need to be regulated and nourished to perform at their peak.

That sacred exhaustion comes with healthy boundaries, deep rest, and a commitment to intentional actions. It's the tiredness that comes from living your full Self-expression—not from living fearfully + suppressing yourself.

Think about it. There's a different quality to the tiredness that comes from playing to win versus the tiredness that comes from playing it safe.

One tears you down. The other builds you up.

One comes from resistance. From holding back.

One comes from going all in from choosing yourself again + again.

The sacred tired comes with inspiration and fire. It comes from building something real that deeply matters to you.

I know this sacred tired because. I meet it every night before I fall into my bed.

It's the tired that comes after you've pushed past your comfort zone.

After you've taken a huge leap of faith.

After you've chosen to trust yourself even when the path ahead isn't clear.

This tired doesn’t suspend you; it expands you.

It comes with the exchange of rest to fuel your purpose, to recover with intention, and to keep betting on yourself.

Because that's what playing to win really means: choosing yourself, your dreams, and your vision when it would be easier not to.

This sacred tired allows me to fall into deep rest every night, knowing I showed up fully. No anxious energy from holding back. No regrets from playing small.

It's normal to feel tired when you're pursuing something that matters to you. The paradox of this sacred tired is that it actually prevents burnout. When you're living in alignment with your authentic Self, giving your energy to what truly matters, you naturally create boundaries around what doesn't. You know when to push and when to pause. It's sustainable power versus borrowed power. This kind of tired replenishes you because it comes from living in your truth—where you're playing to win.

THE INVITATION.

I invite you to think deeply about how you're playing your life (without judgment).

Are you playing to win? Or are you playing not to lose?

I love reminding mySelf of this fact:

THIS IS NO DRESS REHEARSAL. THIS IS YOUR ONE LIFE.

Maybe those words inspire you to switch up your game.

Maybe this essay shines a light on where you could afford to go ALL IN on something that matters to you.

Maybe this was the high-five your spirit craved from a tired day of going ALL IN on your life.

Maybe this inspires some new rituals for recovery + nourishment to your Feminine energy.

Maybe this makes you feel validated.

Maybe this just got you thinking…

That’s always a great idea.

The gold comes from the actions you take after the reflection.

The truth in you knows what to take from this essay. Trust it.

xRx

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