What if the most intense, loyal love affair you're meant to have is with yourself?
Not the Instagram version of "Self-love" with perfect lighting + curated captions. Not the "treat yourself" consumerism that keeps people chasing quick dopamine hits + distracted from actually matters.
This is about devotion in its purest form.
The kind of loving commitment that stands with you through your darkest battles and loves you without conditions.
Most people are desperate for this kind of devotion from others but completely don’t realize how important it is to give to themselves.
Self-devotion has always been a foundational element of my work, but lately, I've been called to bring it front and center—expanding on it in my writing, dedicating more podcast time to it, and weaving it deeper into our community conversations.
The response has been electric. I've watched it light up the women in my community in a way that confirms what I've known: this is essential medicine that so many have been craving.
But what does Self-devotion actually mean when you strip away the spiritual platitudes?
THE LANGUAGE OF DEVOTION
As a logophile (lover of words), I find "devotion" to be one of the most beautiful words in our language. It carries a frequency, an energy that resonates deep in your heart when you say it out loud.
Try it: Devotion. Now try: Self-devotion.
That second one probably feels a bit foreign, maybe even uncomfortable. That's because we've been conditioned to believe devotion belongs to everyone but us.
THE YOU IN YOU
Self-devotion means "I'm with you"—all of you, not just the parts that are easy to love or be proud of. It means "I'm your ride or die" through the highs + the hard. It means commitment to learning with you, growing with you, expanding with you.
This may sound strange at first—being devoted to yourself? But pause + really think about it.
There is a YOU in YOU.
Who's thinking your thoughts right now? Who's aware of your awareness? That's the YOU I'm talking about—your consciousness, your Soul self, your authentic core.
Your Soul self speaks to you through your heart space—the same voice as your authentic self + your intuition. Everything changes when you forge a devoted relationship with this essential part of who you are.
UNCONDITIONAL + LOYAL
Here's what makes Self-devotion so fucking powerful: it's unconditional love met with unbreakable loyalty.
Unconditional love means no prerequisites and no performances required. Loyalty means "I'm not going anywhere, no matter what."
Now, try to direct that energy toward yourself. For some this can feel deeply uncomfortable, and for others like a deep homecoming.
Many of us spend our lives cultivating loyalty to others' expectations and narratives. We become devoted to ideas about who we should be rather than who we authentically are. In the process, we rarely pause to consider what genuine loyalty to ourselves might look and feel like.
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