The Whole Point (and maybe the one you need most right now).
Part IV of my four-part series on reimagining strength, releasing old roles, and allowing yourself to evolve.
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Over the past several weeks, I’ve been writing about the complexity of growth—The discomfort of evolving. The many layers of strength. The power of flexibility. And what it truly takes to stay with yourself while navigating seasons of change.
And now, sitting here with the desert sun kissing my skin, Phil Collins playing in the background, and my heart warmed with gratitude, the message that wants to speak to you in the final essay of this Growth series lives in the energy of integration.
Integration is what happens when growth is met with heart and Soul. With Alignment and Action. It becomes a rhythm, a dance with life you create from. It’s when the pieces of your now and your tomorrow meet in agreement. It’s a core part of evolving. Integration is allowing what is true in your heart to guide you. It is not the end of growth; it is the continued beginning of it.
This final essay has no finality, just like growth. There is no end because every ending is just another beginning. So, let’s begin.
“Real growth asks you to pivot more than it asks you to prove.” —xRx
Every authentic pivot growth asks of you, whether internal or external, is essential for your evolution. It’s asking you to realize that you came here to expand, not remain. It’s making the decision to let trust lead you, even when clarity hasn’t arrived yet.
Its expansion made deliberately and intentionally through choice.
Choosing alignment over approval.
Choosing passion over perfection.
Choosing your truth over everything.
“The identity traits that helped us survive one season may keep us from thriving in the next.” —xRx
Some of your patterns were forged in fire. Built for survival. Necessary and crucial to secure yourself in that season of life. But survival and expansion are not the same thing. And there comes a point when a part of you knows: This version of you is no longer the fullest expression of you.
It’s the call forward from your Soul that doesn’t always feel good, but must always be honored. Sometimes, it shows up in tension, friction, a quiet ache, or a moment of misalignment that guides you into change. However it shows up, it's a clear statement that says: It’s time to move—evolve.
“Strength isn’t how much you carry. It’s how hard you love yourself while you’re carrying it.” —xRx
My quote above gives me chills. Because if I’ve learned anything about strength—especially as a strong woman who’s fucking going for it– living my heart inside out and playing hardball with life, it’s this:
You don’t need to be hard to be powerful. That makes you rigid. And ridgidity makes you fragile— fragility makes you breakable. Softness is strength, and compassion is badass. It’s the way you stay close to yourself in the stretch. The way you choose tenderness over toxic Self-bullying. The way you hold yourself with trust while battling uncertainty. It’s the way you hold respect yourself when growth feels llike your failing—That’s the kind of strength that makes you unbreakable.
“You don’t need to rush clarity. You need to stay in integrity with your becoming.” —xRx
That’s one of the truest things I’ve ever written.
Because clarity doesn’t always come on command, but integrity is always online, available for your use– even when you don’t know the next move. Even when the vision is blurry. Even when you're standing at the threshold, with no map– Integrity is your compass that holds you steady to the path. Integrity says: it’s ok to not know what comes next, but we won’t abandon ourself in the not-knowing.
“This is how you build strength without hardening. This is how you grow without leaving yourself behind.” —xRx
This series has been about that exact practice:
Unlearning the monotone idea of strength and honoring the multi-dimensional aspect of it in real-time.
Rewriting the meaning around growth from the inside-out.
Allowing your identity to evolve and patterns to shift.
Honoring the ache of the middle and seeing it as forward progress.
And leaning into the kind of flexibility that doesn’t make you weaker—it roots you deeper into your heart—your truth.
“Growth is a sacred practice of loosening your grip. Not because you’re backtracking, but because you’re making room. —xRx
Let me assure you… If you’re in a stretch… If you’re in a transition… If you’re deep in the ache of the middle… You’re not lost. You’re not behind. You’re becoming.
Because the truth is: Life is growth. That’s the whole point. To live. To expand. To evolve. To rise and release repeatedly throughout your entire life. And if you can meet those moments honestly… If you can let them rearrange you… If you can trust what’s moving through you...You won’t just evolve on your highest path. You’ll become the most extraordinary expression of your Soul. And that’s what you came to do.
Here’s to endlessly beginning and becoming extraordinary.
xRx
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This is all spot on and so rich of truths and love. I have been going through it, unwinding everything I thought I was, and allowing it all to come through as it needs and not as I think it should be. It has been a deep surrender and in the surrender and allowing.
First of all sis, I feel like I channeled you. I posted a story on this yesterday before reading this essay. Again, universe is holding me during my pivot. A shift that has been happening is still unclear but I am standing in integrity. Allowing and not pushing. Growth + becoming is so uncomfortable and unpredictable but that dance IS life's choreography. I think the most intense part is the power that comes from the choices I get to make that moves the needle. Sometimes forward,.sometimes back but whichever direction I welcome it and learn. The student lens....its always on. Beautiful 4 part essay. LOVE YOU